Arranging the Funeral 

We are able to meet with you at Park Green House, or in the comfort of your own home, to make funeral arrangements. We will spend as much time as you need to help you plan a befitting service for your loved one.

What is the right kind of funeral service for the person who has died?

No matter what kind of funeral you have in mind we will tailor our service according to your specific requirements. We can arrange traditional funeral services which are conducted in a familiar and time-honoured fashion and alternative funerals with fresh and innovative ways to mark the occasion in a unique and memorable way.

Regardless of denomination or culture we are able to offer you many different ways to make the funeral an individual, special and memorable experience.

Funeral services with no religious content

We have close links with a local Unitarian Minister, Humanist and Civil Funeral Celebrants who can officiate at the funeral service. These Ministers will spend time getting to know the family and researching the life of the person who has died in order for the service to be uniquely personalised.

Music And Readings 

Hymns

We have assembled a selection of the most popular hymns for funerals.

Click on the following link for the words and those of other hymns.  www.hymnal.oremus.org

It is possible to watch recordings of these hymns and many others on  www.youtube.com

List of Hymns - Click here

Abide with me
All things bright and beautiful
Amazing grace
And did those feet in ancient time
Be still my soul
Blessed assurance, Jesus is mine
Dear Lord and Father of mankind
Eternal Father strong to save
God be in my head
Great is Thy faithfulness
Guide me O Thou great Redeemer
How great Thou art
I heard the voice of Jesus say
In heavenly love abiding
Lord of all faithfulness
Love divine, all love’s excelling
Make me a channel of Your peace
Morning has broken
Now thank we all our God
O Jesus I have promised
Peace, perfect peace
Praise my soul the King of heaven
To God be the glory
The 23rd Psalm
The day Thou gavest, Lord is ended
The King of love, my Shepherd is
The old rugged cross
There is a green hill far away
When I survey the wondrous cross
Will your anchor hold?

Bible Readings and Christian Readings

We have assembled a selection of popular Bible readings and other suitable Christian readings for funerals.

Bible Readings

Click on the following link for the words and those of other readings.  It is also possible to select the translation.  Many churches use the New Revised Standard Version these days although The Authorised Version is still very popular with our clients although the traditional language style can sometimes be more difficult to understand.  www.bible.oremus.org

The Old Testament

The Psalms

4, 19, 23, 27, 29, 34, 36, 48, 51, 84, 91, 119, 121, 122, 134, 139, 145, 147, 148, and 150

The New Testament

Readings from The Gospel according to St John: - Click here

Chapter 20, verses 11-18              (Mary Magdalene and the risen Christ)
Chapter 4, verses 7-15                   (Jesus and the lady of Samaria)
Chapter 6, verses 1-14                   (Feeding of the five thousand)
Chapter 6, verses 35-40                 (Jesus who is the bread of life)
Chapter 8 verse 12                          (Jesus the Light of the world)
Chapter 11, verses 17-27              (Jesus tells Martha that he is the resurrection and the life)
Chapter 4, verses 7-11                   (God is Love)

The Revelation of St John the Divine Chapter 21, verses 1-7 (the new heaven and new earth)

Other Christian Prayers and Readings

The Lord’s Prayer - Click here

Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name
Thy kingdom come
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil for Thine is the kingdom,
the power, and the glory for ever and ever.

Amen

God be in my head - Click here

God be in my head, and in my understanding;
God be in mine eyes, and in my looking;
God be in my mouth, and in my speaking;
God be in my heart, and in my thinking;
God be at mine end, and at my departing.

The serenity prayer - Click here

God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things that should be changed,
And the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Reinhold Niebuhr (1892 – 1971)

Footprints in the sand - Click here

One night I dreamed I was walking
Along the beach with the Lord,

Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.

Sometimes there were two sets of footprints.
Other times there was only one.

This bothered me because I noticed
During the low periods of my life when I was

Suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat,
I could see only one set of footprints.

So I said to the Lord, ‘You promised me,
Lord, that if I followed You,
You would walk with me always.

But I noticed during my most trying periods
Of my life there has only been
One set of prints in the sand.

Why, when I needed you most,
Have You not been there for me?

The Lord replied,
‘The times when you have seen only one set of footprints
It was when I was carrying you.’

Author unknown

Non Religious Readings

All is well - Click here

Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I and you are you, whatever we were to each other that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which we always used.
Put no difference in your tone; wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Pray, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was, let it be spoken without effort, without a trace of shadow in it.
Life means all that it ever meant, it is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

What is death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.

Canon Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)

Do not stand at my grave and weep - Click here

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there.  I did not die.

Author unknown

Farewell - Click here

Farewell to Thee!  But not farewell
To all my fondest thoughts of Thee;
Within my heart they shall dwell
And they shall cheer and comfort me.

Life seems more sweet that Thou didst live
And men more true Thou wert one;
Nothing is lost that Thou didst give,
Nothing destroyed that Thou hast done.

Anne Bronte (1820 – 1849)

Funeral blues - Click here

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

W H Auden (1907 – 1973)

High flight - Click here

Oh, I have slipped the surly bonds of earth
And danced the sky on laughter-silvered wings.
Sunward I’ve climbed and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun split clouds – and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of; wheeled and soared and swung
High in the sunlit silence.  Hovering there
I’ve chased the wind along, and flung
My eager craft through footless halls of air;
Up, up the long delirious burning blue
I’ve topped the windswept heights with easy grace,
Where never lark nor even eagle flew;
And while, with silent lifting mind I’ve trod
The high, untrespassed sanctity of space
Put out my hand and touched the face of God.

Flying Officer John Gillespie McGee (1922 – 1941)

If I should die - Click here

If I should die and leave you here a while,
be not like others sore undone;
who keep long vigils by the silent dust, and weep.
For my sake turn again to life and smile,
nerving thy heart and trembling hand
to do something to comfort other hearts than thine.
Complete those dear unfinished tasks of mine
And I therein may perchance comfort you.

Mary Lee Hall

Life goes on - Click here

If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower
Nor inscribe a stone
Nor when I am gone
Speak in a Sunday voice
But be the usual selves
That I have known

Weep if you must
Parting is hell
But life goes on
So….sing as well

Joyce Grenfell (1910 – 1979)

Not how did he die, but how did he live - Click here

Not how did he die, but how did he live?
Not what did he gain, but what did he give?
These are the units to measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.

Not what was his church, nor what was his creed?
But had he befriended those really in need?
Was he ever ready, with word of good cheer,
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?

Not what did the sketch in the newspaper say,
But how many were sorry when he passed away.

Author unknown

Remember - Click here

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into a distant land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand.
Nor half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day you tell me of our future that you have planned: only remember me you understand.
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while, and afterwards remember, do not grieve for the darkness and corruption leave a vestige of the thoughts that once I had.
Better by far that you should forget and smile than you should remember and be sad.

Christina Rosetti (1830-1894)

The book - Click here

Go to that place we loved, our secret place.
Close your eyes and you’ll see my face.

Play that tune, the tune we loved to hear.
Close your eyes and you’ll see me clear.

Walk on a beach or climb to the top of a hill.
Close your eyes and you’ll see me still.

Take a sip of wine, of dark red wine.
Close your eyes and you’ll see me fine.

At night go out and look at the brightest star.
Close your eyes and you’ll see me far.

On a day when the sky is blue and cold and clear.
Close your eyes and you’ll see me near.

Take down a book that would have been my choice.
Open the book.  Close your eyes.  You’ll hear my voice.

Paul Meadows (1969 - )

Time is too slow for those who wait - Click here

Time is too slow for those who wait,
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grieve,
To short for those who rejoice,
But for those who love, time is eternity.

Henry Van Dyke (1852 - 1933)

You can shed tears that she is gone - Click here

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back
Or you can open your eyes and see that she has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
Or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her and only that she’s gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she’d want: smile, open your eyes love and go on.

David Harkins

Music

Here are some suggestions for Classical or Popular music chosen by many of our clients:

It is possible to listen to these pieces and may others on  www.youtube.com

Music List - Click here

Classical Music

Processional:

Sarabande in D Minor  - Handel
Pie Jesu - Bach
Lascia ch’io pianga - Handel
Air on a G String - Bach
Bist du bei mir (Thou art Near) - Bach

Recessional:

Canon in D Major - Pachelbel
Adagio in G Minor - Albinoni
I know that my Redeemer liveth - Handel
Sheep may safely graze - Bach
Ave Maria - Schubert
Nimrod - Elgar
Vater unser im Himmelreich (The Lord’s Prayer) - Bach

Popular Music

My way - Frank Sinatra
Wind beneath my wings  - Bette Middler
Time to say “Goodbye”  - Andrea Bocelli / Sarah Brightman
Over the rainbow  - Eva Casidy
You raise me up - Westlife
Unforgettable - Nat King Cole
I will always love you - Whitney Houston
In the mood - Glenn Miller
Moonlight serenade - Glenn Miller
Hallelujah - Leonard Cohen
All the time in the world - Louis Armstrong
What a wonderful world - Louis Armstrong
We’ll meet again - Vera Lynn
White cliffs of Dover - Vera Lynn



Care of your loved one 

We will handle your loved one with the greatest care and respect, ensuring that their dignity is maintained at all times.

British Institute of EmbalmersSometimes we recommend that a hygienic treatment procedure is carried out. This is to retard the progress of deterioration which naturally occurs when someone dies and to maintain a peaceful, restful and natural appearance. Hygienic treatment is carried out by an experienced and professionally qualified practitioner who is a member of the British Institute of Embalmers

We will be happy to provide further information regarding hygienic treatment.

Visiting a loved one after they have died 

Chapel of RestYou may find great comfort in spending time with a loved one after they have died. It may help you to come to terms with your loss and ease the bereavement process in the longer term. It may also make the day of the funeral less traumatic as the coffin will have been seen before hand.

Park Green House has two Chapels of Rest where it is possible for time to be spent with a loved one in comfort and privacy. We provide facilities to play compact discs and for candles to be burned. You may choose to place flowers, letters, photographs or other personal mementos in the coffin.

Our aim is for your visit to be a positive experience. We will endeavour to accommodate any requirements you may have to make your visit special and meaningful and will do all we can to provide help and support.

Although it is less common these days some families request that their loved one remains at home for the period leading up to the day of the funeral. Please let us know if you would like more information about how this can be arranged.

Our Chapels of Rest are available 24 hours a day, by appointment only.

Floral tributes 

It is possible fFloral Tributesor you to arrange floral tributes through us as we have an established relationship with a local florist.

We will remove the cards from the floral tributes after they have been viewed by the mourners and hand them to you, with photographs of the flowers, several days after the funeral.

We would be pleased to convey the floral tributes to a nursing home or the local hospice after the funeral service has taken place where they will be made them into smaller arrangements for the enjoyment of residents and visitors.

Donations 

ChequeWe will collect donations from the mourners on the day of the funeral.

We will hand them to you after the service so that you may forward them to your chosen charity.




Record of attendance at a funeral service 

Attendance CardWe will invite those attending the funeral to record their names on Attendance cards. We will hand the Attendance cards to you after the funeral service has taken place.

We can also supply a Book of Condolence.



Death and Acknowledgement notices 

We will place Death Notices and Acknowledgement notices in the newspapers or publications of your choice and will be pleased to assist you with the wording.

Coffins, caskets and cremation urns 

We supply a wide range of styles of coffins, caskets and cremation urns to suit all tastes. We source these items from local manufactures and suppliers where possible.

Traditional Coffin Wicker Coffin Colourful Coffins


Memorial Stones 

We can supply memorial stones from a wide range of styles to suit all tastes. We will provide you with any assistance you may require with choosing the wording for the inscription and handle the whole process for you.

Cremated remains 

We will collect the cremated remains of the deceased from the crematorium after the cremation has taken place and will hold them in our safe-keeping pending your further instructions.

We will be pleased to help you plan services for interment or scattering of cremated remains.

How much will the funeral cost? 

We will provide a breakdown of the cost of each element of the service provided.  We believe our fees to be competitive and to provide excellent value for our clients.

The Estimate

We will discuss the cost of each aspect of the funeral service with you in detail and we will provide you with a written, itemised Estimate before you instruct us.

The Account

Where we are instructed to undertake a funeral we will ask you to pay a Deposit at least 48 hours prior to the funeral taking place. Disbursements are costs incurred by third-parties; necessary in order for the funeral to take place as instructed, for example:

  • Cemetery fees
  • Church fees including the Minister, organist, bell ringers, choir etc.
  • Crematorium fees
  • Doctor’s fees
  • Floral tributes arranged via our company
  • News paper notices
  • Printing of service sheets

    The funeral account will be sent to you within seven days of the funeral and we ask that payment be made in full within fourteen days of the date of the account.  Special payment terms are available upon request and will be offered at our discretion.

    If you are making a claim from the Social Fund to assist you with payment of Funeral Expenses, we will assist you with completion of the Application Form and submission of your application.



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